Dear Clients and Readers,   I have been thinking about a pattern I see often in my work with couples. Those who struggle most in their relationships are not always the ones who fight too much. Sometimes they are the ones who cannot seem to let their partner’s perspective in. In other words, they refuse to be influenced.   There is research on this. The Gottmans found that couples where one partner consistently refuses to be influenced by the other have an 81 per cent chance of divorce. When I...

Dear Clients, I have been reflecting lately on how grief can paradoxically awaken us to life. In both individual therapy and couples...

Dear Clients, It is one thing to want your life to be different. It is another to begin the vulnerable, often uncomfortable work of...